My Dad died 3 years ago today and as I write that it still seems unreal to me.
This morning I lit the traditional Jewish Jahrzeit candle, it’s a memorial candle that burns for 24 hours as a reminder of the deceased. Whilst I’m not religious or indeed a believer in God, there is a joy and comfort in following the tradition, the real surprise though, is that tiny flickering candle makes it somehow feel as though Dad is there in the room.
He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at the age of 69 and died aged 73 having spent the final 2 years of his life in care. Alzheimer’s is a brutal condition that slowly chips away at the sufferers brain, first taking their personality then slowly eroding their ability to function, speak, move & interact. What I really learned during that time is how there is still joy in the tiniest of moments and that just being able to sit with someone you love is a gift never to be over looked.
There is a strong chance that someone who reads this will currently, or recently have been going through the grieving process and I wanted to share something that I read at my Dad’s memorial service. The author of this is unknown, but it is so simple and beautiful, that it really helped me, maybe it will help one of you.
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him,
Or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he’s gone,
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty, and turn your back,
Or you can do what he’d want; Smile, Open your eyes, Love and go on.
If you’ve ever dieted, or on a diet now, or just want to change a couple of things, this is just brilliant. Even if you feel like you don’t need to lose weight, this ‘Stress-buster’ diet is just unbelievable. I swear by it, it requires little or no effort & yet you will feel the results after day 1.
This is a specially formulated diet designed to help you cope with the
stress that builds during the day.
1 slice whole-wheat toast, dry
8oz cup skimmed milk
4oz small portion lean, steamed chicken or white fish
4oz steamed spinach
1 cup herbal tea
1 Chocolate digestive biscuit
The rest of the Chocolate digestives in the packet
1 tub of Hagen-Daaz ice cream with chocolate-chip topping
1 jar hot fudge sauce
Nuts, Cherries, 1 entire spray cream tube.
2 loaves garlic bread with cheese
1 family-size Dominos pizza, thick crust
4 glasses of wine (red or white) or 4 cans of larger, or both.
3 Snickers or Milky Ways
LATE NIGHT SNACK
1 whole frozen cheesecake eaten directly from freezer.
RULES FOR DIETING
• If you eat something and no one sees you eat it, it has no calories.
• If you drink a diet soda with a candy bar, the calories in the candy bar are cancelled out by the diet soda.
• When you eat with someone else, calories don’t count if you don’t eat more than they do.
• Food used for medicinal purposes NEVER count, such as hot chocolate, brandy, toast and Sara Lee Cheesecake.
• If you fatten up everyone else around you, then you look thinner.
• Movie related foods (Chocloate peanuts, Buttered Popcorn, Hot Dogs, Pick ‘n’ Mix, Nachos etc. do not have additional calories because they are part of the ‘entertainment package’ and not part of one’s personal fuel.
• Cookie pieces contain no fat — the process of breaking causes calorie leakage.
• Things licked off knives and spoons have no calories if you are in the process of preparing something. Examples are peanut butter on a knife while making a sandwich and ice cream on a spoon while making a sundae.
• Foods that have the same colour have the same number of calories. Examples are: spinach and pistachio ice cream; mushrooms and white chocolate.
NOTE: Chocolate is a universal colour and may be substituted for any other food colour.
• Foods that are frozen have no calories because calories are units of heat. Examples are ice cream, frozen pies, and lolipops.
Ok, so you’re on your own, walking through a busy street and everyone bumping & jostling you is driving you crazy. How can you avoid this without simply resorting to looking like a nutter or a tramp?
Well here is a trick I have used for years and am sharing for the first time. This won’t irradicate all jostles, but without a doubt it cuts a path with noticeable effect.
When walking, look directly ahead of you with your eye-line held just ABOVE the heads of the oncoming crowds. Keep walking and imagine that people will move, guess what, they do. Noticeable jostle-reduction.
Try it, see if it works for you.
Scare-mongering doesn’t get much better than this, especially when it comes to the dread fear of cancer. Rather than publishing the inspiring reality of how much progress is made in curing and dealing with the disease, or the facts of how many people survive, the Daily Mail chooses to constantly bombard us with this instead. This staggering list is comprises of all the different things the Daily Mail has reported cause cancer. Visit this brilliant Facebook group to see all the links and published stories http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=269512464297&ref=nf
AGE AIR POLLUTION
BEING A BLACK PERSON
BEING A WOMAN
BEING A MAN
BEING A SKINNY GIRL
COD LIVER OIL
COLD TEMPERATURES & LACK OF SUNLIGHT
EGGS (free range)
HOT DRINKS h
LONG RING FINGER
PRINCE CHARLES ORGANIC CRISPS
THIRD HAND SMOKE (read article and you’ll understand)
TURNING ON THE LIGHTS AT NIGHT TO GO TO THE LOO
WAR IN IRAQ
FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF YEARS.
Now count the F’s in that sentence. Count them ONLY ONCE! Then see below…
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There are six F’s in the sentence.
About 70% of people only see 3, this is because you dismiss the ‘f’ in the word ‘of’, it becomes psychologically invisible.
If you spotted more than three ‘f’s, congratulations, you are in the super-smart minority.